If you are a man who remains single in your thirties, congratulations, you are considered an eligible bachelor. However, women are not as lucky. They are more often associated with 'left-overs', 'unwanted', as if they are being presented on the 'Clarence' rack. If you are one of them, cheer up, these perceptions will make you feel less good only if you LET them.
If you have to choose between being single and happy, and married but miserable, which do you prefer? Well, that might be a bit extreme. How about being married and happy? Well, the point is: you should never rely on your partner to bring you happiness. It's not anyone else's responsibility. Being happy is a choice that you owe to yourself. If you want a happy and loving relationship with someone, you have to be happy and love yourself first. Think of it the other way around: would you rather be with someone happy or miserable?
Now, let's look at the bright side of being single: You will have the freedom that makes couples envy. There is no need to compromise. No second opinion. You can do whatever you like, whenever you like, and whenever you like, as long as it's legal. A few ideas would be:
- Go to bed any time between
- Eat in a fancy restaurant or cook an omelet for dinner, or go on a diet 'cause you don't feel like going grocery shopping
- Sing along with the radio
- Walk around at home naked
- Go shopping for the whole day without a shopping list, buy lots of stuff or nothing. (For guys, not going shopping at all.)
- Be the sole owner of all the remote controls
- Watch DVD on your favorite TV series or play online game for 12 hours straight
- Take risks
- Jump on your dream job in a different city or country given 2 weeks notice
- Date a different person every week, or every day, or every hour, or every 5 minutes (in speed dating)
The list goes on and on... Simply put, you have to find out what you enjoy doing, and do those things, at least once in a while if they are more of bad habits. What crazy stuff do you have on your list? Let me know. I'd love to try them out and make the best use of my single time.
P.S.
At the beginning of the year, I made a new-year-resolution list. Be happy is the first one on top. In April things went tough and I found myself traveling in Europe trying to escape from the problems. On my way from Paris to Gent, I fell asleep on the train and woke up in Oostende! It was late in the afternoon and I was panicking. Who knows if there was another train? I didn't even have a place to sleep. A gentleman who works at the train station kindly helped me out. As we were walking towards to the same train that is now going back to Gent, he said to me: "Things happen all the time. Remember to be happy." I was astonished. It's like he read my diary and was waiting to say those very words to me when I needed it the most.
If at times you are feeling blue, "Remember to be happy."
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