Action Plan for Single Girls on Valentine's Day

Is valentine's day the worse nightmare for singles? The whole world is celebrating love and you seem to be the only one left out? It doesn't have to be that way. Here is the action plan for fabulous single girls to enjoy this day.

Action 1. Release.

Get the negative feelings out of the way. It's OK to feel sad. Don't try to sugar-coat it by pretending to be happy. But remember, being single is way better than being trapped in a troubled relationship. If you have to, give yourself 5 minutes to focus on your misery, (you'll realize how stupid that is before the time is up.) Check to see if anything is changed. Then move to action 2.

Action 2. Express.

Valentine's Day is not just about romantic relationships, it's about the BIG love. Show your appreciation of your friend, your family, your pets, yourself, or planet earth! Send Valentine's Day card to your loved ones. And remember to pick the most fancy card for yourself and write down reasons why you're so special and lovable. Make sure it's big enough, cause you need all the space.

Action 3. Connect.

If you are determined to get out of singlehood, put yourself out there. Prince charming is not going to come and knock on your door no matter how long you stay home waiting. Think what you are passionate about. Join an interest group and start making friends. Try meetup, meet market adventures, or groups on facebook.

Action 4. Have fun.

There are plenty of singles parties on this day. Sign up and have fun! You'll realize that there is plenty of fish in the sea. You may find the special one on this special day. (Wishful thinking, I know, but be careful what you wish for, cause it might come true.)

Action 5. Get Physical.

If you are not the party type, exercise is a good way to boost your energy level and get you in a good mood. Go to the gym, attend a kickboxing class, try belly dancing, or go swimming in your poker dot bikinis.

Action 6. Indulge.

Before you can love others and be loved, you must love yourself. Pamper yourself with a SPA session or soak in your own tub with music (yes, you are encouraged to sing along) and aromatherapy candles. Enjoy a good massage and paint your toe nails in fuchsia.

You can pick a few actions from the list or do them all. Who knows, this may be your last single's valentine's day. Celebrate it, your way.

Photo by me :-)

To click or not to click?!

Exactly when will the 'click' happen between you and the stranger?

The story of Susan and Dave happens all the time to those who are dating online. Although the click didn't happen, at least they recognized each other. I heard numerous stories about people who use old photos, lying about their age, height, body type, and even marital status. Don't they know they can't hide the truth forever?! I simply couldn't understand.

Just like some people walks faster or slower than others, people who date online have their own pace. Some would email back and forth for months, some ask for a date in the second message.

I once dated a guy who looked good in the profile. We exchanged phone number and had a pleasant conversation over the phone. He planned for a big date, dinner followed by karaoke. We were both confident that it would be a great date, but realized it could be a mistake in the first 2 minutes. We tried to make it work. The date was as enjoyable as it could be, albeit a little awkward. He kept saying: "This is great." for about 10 times. Trying to convince himself? By the end of it, we were kind of relieved and felt a little unfortuanite that neither of us felt the click.

Don't get me wrong. He is a very decent person. There is absolutely nothing about him that anyone would complain about. The click simply didn't happen.

Some dating sites take you through baby steps to know the other person on paper before you can even message each other freely. Some are completely open so you have no idea if your date is a VP of a corporation or a fireman. (I know, I know, I shouldn't define a person by his occupation, but...you get the point. )

After all the profiling, matching, searching, chatting, online dating's success rate is still below our expectation. Speed dating forces you to spend 5 minutes of your life with someone totally out of your league (higher or lower) just because he or she is in the same age bucket as you. Isn't there a better way to do this?

And what if you are lucky that you do click on the first sight or the first date. Who knows if the attraction will stay? On the other hand, it's not unusual to suddenly click with someone you knew a no more than a friend from the past.

Looking at the happy couples around us. I wonder how they did it.

manage your money

According to a research from Zurich, single people are potentially leaving themselves financially exposed.
Not a good sign. I carefully went through the list and was finally relieved that I'm one of the 10% who actually have it under control.

Let's look at the risks and start planning for your money.

1. Being a person family, we are at a very high risk without a second income resource.
Plan A: Get critical illness coverage or other form of income protection coverage.
Plan B: Build multiple income, better still, passive multiple income.

2. Being single, we don't get to enjoy the benefit of sharing accommodation, (some do), or car. We paid more for vacations, hotels, and the list goes on.
Plan A: Talk to a financial adviser, BUT don't sign anything or buy anything yet. After hearing the introduction, read some books and consult your friends before you make any decision.
Plan B: Get married and let him/her worry about it.

3. We can be spontaneous in spending as we don't have to answer to someone else. But can we effort to? I surprise myself half of the time looking at my credit card bills.
Plan A: Set a spending budget and stick to it. Analyze your current spending habit and make the budget feasible.
Plan B: Double or triple your income while maintaining the same expenses.

It's sexy to be single and rich. It's sad to be broke, single or not.

Image by perfectday_s

Marriage is like a castle

There is a Chinese saying about marriage. "Marriage is like an enclosed castle, those who are outside want to get in, and those inside want to get out. "

Is it true? Read "Seven Things No One Tells You About Marriage" and get a taste of marriage before you dive in.
Maybe the better approach is to be happy wherever you are, inside or outside.